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I agree so very much with this article. I think more of us are learning, finally, to remember to have an "attitude of gratitude"....it makes all the difference in how our day goes. To be grateful and to have respect for all ...isn't that what the master plan is supposed to be? I am in my 67th year and am still learning and still having to remind myself of this. I found this article while doing research on cob houses and I would love to rid myself of too much stuff and live this lifestyle and be more with nature...simplifying sounds so very, very good.
Your kind of living is truly one great example of effective and efficient downsizing. Many may find a 70 square feet home very small but those people would surely be surprised with the kind of simple living you currently have. You are utterly inspiring. Andrew Kozlowski: downsizing your home
No I haven't covered that. I have another five or six articles in the series in progress, though I hadn't actually considered one on what food to carry, I'll add it to the list. I'm currently way behind on my writing due to some recent major changes in my life. Hopefully I'll be starting up again soon, though I have always taken the approach that I would rather write one good article in a month then eight mediocre ones. Of course that doesn't account for the last seven months of silence :-)
Hi, I just read this series of posts. They are great!You mentioned you also carry "full food for four to five days hiking and 1/2 gallon / two liters of water." Did you cover that part already? I've been wondering how/what about food.
Anyone reading this post after reading the above, please read this artical again and again, because there seems to be a lot of information in here that is easy to miss the first time round.
I have something to say on this topic, having been into hell and back in an emotionally/mentally abusive relationship. I hope what I say may help someone who is in an abusive relationship. Bear in mind that my case involved no physical abuse, only emotional and mental stuff, (with someone with serious untreated mental illness who wouldn't recognize their illness and get treatment). So some things I say may not apply to cases involving physical abuse.No matter how helpful and liberating it may feel for the abused to accept
responsibility for being in an abusive relationship, (ie. for getting into it in the first place, not getting out, or for possibly triggering abuse at times, etc. etc.), accepting blame still doesn't get you out of one, nor does it absolve the ABUSER of the responsibility for THEIR
actions. Accept the blame for your part, yes, but don't stop there. It is much more
productive to: focus on learning how to recognize the signs of abusive relationships, figure out a plan of action to get yourself out, and learn what healthy relationships are, than it is to get hung up on what could turn out (for some people)
to be a pointless
and drawn out self flagellation session. Acceptance is great, but protracting the blame game into a serious guilt complex gets you nowhere. Case in point, I had accepted the blame (mentally) for years for my part in being in one of these, but that didn't get me out until I decided I didn't deserve it and that I could figure a way out. It took years of careful planning, and an unusual living arrangement (me not divorcing but moving out and the abusive one visiting kids and I on weekends which allowed me to be more in control of things). You see, most hard-core abusers (physical and/or emotional ones) are difficult to get away from, and often the worst damage happens AFTER the abused person leaves (in the case of physical abuse, this sometimes means serious injury or even death). So you have to plan carefully and have some kind of sound support system in place and you have to find your own answers, not just do what other people tell you. The most important thing is to get away from serious abuse of any kind, and to get into a situation that will be more safe, not less, irregardless of what the relationship status is on paper..One thing is clear to me though, and that is that serious hard-core abusers can't be fixed by their partners, they have to want to change. People shouldn't waste their time, energy and life on folks who don't see the need - or have any motivation, to change. This means moving forward, not backwards, might mean giving up on someone. It's a fact of life.Getting everyone in the family to a safe place, can call for creative solutions and sometimes even compromises (such as waiting for full freedom/divorce til later). I say this because unless someone has been in one of these (I am talking about emotional/mental abuse only), it is hard to understand how trapped you feel and how difficult these kinds of abusers can be to get free from without more damage, especially if minor children are involved. The temptation is for people outside your situation to give simple one size fits all solutions, without knowing all the circumstances. In some cases, if you attempt to achieve permanent solution right away (such as divorce) these very clever and calculating abusers often resort to hurting those around you, particularly children, by the most sinister and insidious means they can (especially if mental illness is involved). This makes getting everyone to a "safe place" that much harder. All the abusive people I have known were diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, and these folks are very paranoid about abandonment issues. It is best to plan carefully and calmly in cases of any kind of abuse. You want to have your ducks in a row so that things don't get worse. If kids are involved, things are more complicated than just "getting your freedom and life back". One complication with the non physically but still abusive spouse/partner is that they can often easily obtain visitation rights with the children, and they end up with years of unsupervised, potentially harmful weekends alone with the kids. There are alternatives that may work, such as holding off on the permanent solutions so that you can call the shots. You could insist on supervised visits. For me, as I said, it was leaving the spouse and establishing a separate home elsewhere (but not divorcing) and having the spouse visit us on the weekends. I had the most control in that scenario than in any other since because I didn't go to court, where court ordered visitation surely would have been a result, and since he didn't go either, I remained in the drivers seat about where and when he would see the kids. This may not work for most people, but if anyone out there is in this kind of situation, dare to be creative and think outside the box. Sometimes it is best to let sleeping dogs lie for a time. The goal is to find a safe way out that does the least amount of damage to all involved, even if that takes some time and unusual living arrangements to achieve complete freedom. My last piece of advice is to not be in a rush to start something else. I have known several people (mostly women) who were so anxious to rush all the way to the "permanent solution" (in these cases, divorce) so that they could be free to start something with someone else, that they made hasty decisions and usually ended up in other bad relationships, sometimes going from the frying pan to the fire. Not good. Take as much time to plan as you can safely afford, be calm, have a support system behind you, and put sound solutions into action. And above all, don't rush into anything else til you have figured out what went wrong, and how to have healthy relationships. And "healthy relationships" doesn't have to mean "romantic" relationships either, good friends from both genders can fill in much of the gap and help you heal.For a helpful page on warning signs of abusive relationships, go here:http://www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abusive_signs.htmFor an interesting page on the differences between abusive and healthy relationships, go here:http://www.recovery-man.com/abusive/healthy_abusive.htm
Try carrying a tiny tube of washable fabric glue. It takes seconds to dab on just enough to set the threads in place from the wrong side of the garment (too much may darken the fabric). Nearly invisible, nontoxic, and some of these repairs have lasted us years with regular washing. There may be something better, but I've had the same bottle of Alene's OK To Wash It glue, available at craft and sewing stores, for ten years. Crazy Glue might be more versatile, but also more toxic.
No, this was never intended to imply that we can prevent bad things from happening. Sometimes for no reason other than being born in the wrong place, people are presented with nothing but bad choices. Of course, even when all choices are bad ones, some are still worse than others. The main point is to recognize our role in what happens in our lives and learn from it so we can make better choices and/or be better prepared for the next thing life throws at us. Too many people reject any responsibility for the consequences of their choices, learn nothing, make no behavioral changes, and then are surprised the next time something similar happens.
Like anything else, this can be taken to an extreme. We are mortal, we are vulnerable, we do everything we can to avoid those facts, including deciding we're at fault when things we can't control affect us.I lived on the street when young; I was consequently raped twice and abducted at knifepoint on a separate occasion. If I had not been living on the street, these things would probably not have happened to me (I am a woman, yes, we need sex too). These events were a terrible raw spot in my psyche until I could admit (about 30 years later) that my life choices had put me in the way of them. I understand the healing power of knowing what part I play in my problems. I would never mistake that power for being able somehow to prevent tragedy. Were you suggesting that? I don't think so; still, this is what I was inspired to say to you. thanks for your blog! M
After working several years at jobs I hated but stayed because the money was good, I finally and happily got laid off due to the economic downturn. It has been one of the best things that has ever happened to me. It forced me to put the brakes on and STOP! From a very young age we are brainwashed into thinking that we measure our success and self worth by the things we can acquire (especially Americans). I was lacking spiritual success in a big way. I have now divorced my husband, sold my big house, studying Buddhism, and I am still jobless. This journey is showing me that I do not need the extra baggage to live happily. It is simplicity at its best. The most important thing to me now is more time to enjoy nature, animals and my family. You can't put a price on that! It is separating the NEED for things and the WANT for them and doing it without destroying the environment that we are all connected to. I am glad we are kindred spirits in our thinking!
Amen brother! This was an important article. If I can add my two cents, I now look to other things for my reinforcement rather than the scale. In addition to the looser clothes you mentioned; improved mood, more alert brain (big difference here), lower blood pressure (that's a fun number to watch), and needing less sleep (a big surprise). A note on the sleeping less, at first I questioned how I could afford the time to exercise (over an hour daily, split between morning and evening so it doesn't become a chore). After noticing that I was sleeping about the same amount of time less each day that I exercised, it started to make sense. You get back what you put into it (really more, if you count all the other benefits, many of them in the area of time). Some days I even recover more time from sleep than I am spending in exercise. Very worth it. I am guessing that one has to do enough exercise each day, and do it for enough weeks to notice this side effect. Also, think about all the years one may be adding to the end of their
life (unless they get hit by a car while jogging, of course). Of course, there's a point of no return on this, not to mention the fact that too much exercise can compromise the immune system. But once you add in all the other benefits such as the elevated mood and more alert brain, it's a winning proposition. I feel like I get more done in less time (make fewer mistakes, process information quicker), and I certainly spend a lot less time walking around in a fog! Plus, I cogitate over things I want to solve while I'm exercising, which makes the time fly. It makes sense all around. I think people can find the time to exercise if they invest enough time and effort into it.
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Hi Peter,
The problem with creating a monitor without a chest strap is the sensors (aside from my writing, I have a great deal of experience with the development of medical devices). The chest strap picks up the electrical signals at the heart and relays them to the watch. In order to eliminate the chest strap, you must find a way to measure the heart rate both reliably and continuously at the watch. While it is possible to measure heart rate by taking your pulse on the arm (electronic blood pressure cuffs do this), it is much harder to do without using an inflated blood pressure cuff which is not something you can use continuously. I can think of ways it could be done, but (so far as I am aware), none of them could be powered by a watch battery.
I'm glad you enjoy my writing. Not that it matters, but I'm actually a man.
FWIW
Shannon
I wonder why there seems to be no wrist watch monitors which measure calories used throughout the day - not just during exercise.Shannon mentions she thought this was essential, as it is not possible to calculate it 'on paper', but she had to use a chest strap to do it. Whenever I ask if one is available people look at me as if I am mad!Is there some technical reason which makes this difficult?I've read all your on-line articles and I think they are the best I have ever read.Sincerely, Peter
I agree, I hike in whatever I am wearing, I have hiked barefoot...only a mile and it was on gravel and it was awful but I did it and was happy doing it! Walking long distances is a natural task and should be carried out naturally.. ie in whatever you are wearing. I mostly only wear very flat shoes, some people call them ballerina flats but mine are made of courdoroy and have a very thin piece of foam on the bottom as a sole. so I am only about 1/4 inch off of the ground but they are so comfortable and keep me in touch with the earth so I feel sure on my feet, and its just enough padding soften any sharp obejects that would hurt my sole.
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Hiked into and around Havasu canyon in penny loafers, worked fine, just the right amount of protection from abrasion. Can't imagine doing such a thing in heavy hiking boots--foot always fighting the boot, can't feel the trail/rock/whatever beneath you.
An interesting article about shoes. Here is a website for helping more people get a pair of shoes. soles4souls.org. They coordinated relief efforts providing shoes for the Asian Tsunami and Hurricanes Katrina & Rita with many shoes donated by the shoe industry as well as new and gently worn shoes donated by individuals. Billie
So it seems the trick is to help the person find the truth where their belief resides. Since humans are as humans are, I suppose you would have to talk to both their head and heart to convince them. Ya know, when I was once in an inquisitive mood, I checked to see what people's deepest truth might be. Not surprisingly to me as a biologist, it pertained to survivel and was expressed as values. I figure you should always address things that way. You might be surprised what you can do with that. If you get bored, look at http://www.diver.net/seahunt. Look at the left if you are just tired and want to be refreshed some. Look at the right if you want a new thought or two.Enjoy
I recall reading somewhere that Native Americans typically lived with little or no clothing year-round, and that they blamed the loss of their natural good health and vitality on being forced (or otherwise influenced) to wear the white man's clothing. I was raised in Texas and used to "freeze" at 68 degrees. Now I live in the Pacific NW and I can hardly ever even find an occasion to wear a wool sweater. For me, 68 is now a nice, warm day, and like you, I find myself wearing shorts in 40-something-degree weather. I have a feeling we'd all be healthier if we tried, as you suggest, living WITH natural temperature swings instead of always fighting against them.
You are right of course, it's not easy to break free, but you don't have to do it all at once, or even completely. Don't go for the "massive leap of consciousness", just make small incremental changes, exploring / trying out other options and looking for the better choices. It is possible to live within the system on a limited basis, taking the good aspects and rejecting the bad. This is ultimately what this web site is about, re-evaluating who you are and how you live. Hopefully some of the other articles will help you find a better path.
Your views are both right and correct, however, getting to the point of having that choice in a petroleum-based, work oneself to death society is quite an accomplishment.My wife is physically disabled so I am currently enslaved to the system in order to pay for her care.I have been fortunate and hard working and now have the choice of lifestyle, but we need to keep an understanding that the society built upon owing our souls to the company store does not let go easily without one making a massive leap of consciousness similar to the yogis of India who spend the retired years begging.
I love this Shannon. It describes exactly what one needs to succeed at any complex endeavor, but especially one where you will have to do some growing to get there. It certainly applies to starting or running any sort of business.-robertw
Just wanted to tell you I think the article titled "Success is not an Option" is excellent. It helped galvanize my resolve to make the health changes written about in this article. I'm very deliberate and determined about goals/things I decide to do, but needed a good pep talk to get going on making the health changes, as do many of us. As a result of getting and following the book (Burn The Fat Build Muscle), I have received a constant unexpected boost of energy from following the author's suggestions. (esp. eating every three hours and doing consistent cardio and weight training exercises). After three weeks of doing most of this, my slightly elevated blood pressure has dropped to normal and the mild chronic headaches that went along with it are gone, probably due to all the walking. My four weekly work days are 14 hours long (due to long work hours and lots of traveling), so previous to this change my three days "off" were half wasted trying to recover energy and sleep. If someone had told me that I would now feel this peppy all the time, despite my schedule, by raising my metabolism rate through proper diet and exercise, I would have been skeptical.So thanks for doing the blog. I think that if people will take your health suggestions seriously (and try the book no matter where they get it from), they will be pleased with the energy gain, which is probably the real hidden treasure of the starve fat feed muscle method. Maybe you will never know how many good changes your blog will trigger in people's lives, but hopefully they will write and tell you. Perhaps only a fraction of the people will. I really do appreciate the blog, and this information came to me just at the right time.Anon
Just wanted to tell you I think the article titled "Success is not an Option" is excellent. It helped
galvanize
my resolve to make the health changes written about in this article. I'm very deliberate and
determined about goals/things I decide to do, but needed a good pep
talk to get going on making
the health changes, as do many of us. As a result of getting and
following the book (Burn The Fat Build Muscle), I have
received a constant unexpected boost of energy from following the
author's
suggestions. (esp. eating every three hours and doing consistent cardio
and
weight training exercises). After three weeks of doing most of this, my slightly elevated blood pressure has
dropped to normal and the mild chronic headaches that went along with
it are gone,
probably due to all the walking. My four weekly work days are 14 hours
long (due to long work hours and lots of traveling), so previous to this change my three days
"off" were half wasted trying to recover energy and sleep. If someone
had told me that I would now feel this peppy all the time, despite my schedule, by raising my
metabolism rate
through proper diet and exercise, I would have been skeptical.
So thanks for doing the blog. I think that if people will take your
health suggestions seriously (and try the book no matter where they get it
from), they will
be pleased with the energy gain, which is probably the
real hidden treasure of the starve fat feed muscle method. Maybe you
will never know how many good changes your blog will
trigger in people's lives, but hopefully they will write and tell you.
Perhaps only a fraction of the people will. I really do appreciate the
blog, and this information came to me just at the right time.Anon